Formal Disclosure vs. Trickle Truths

 

The difference between a Formal Disclosure and a Trickle Truth Disclosure lies in how information is shared—specifically regarding sensitive or damaging truths, such as infidelity, addiction, or past misconduct.

🔹 Formal Disclosure

Definition: A Formal Disclosure is a structured, intentional, and complete revelation of previously hidden or harmful information—usually done in one session or process, often with professional guidance (e.g., therapist, attorney, polygraph examiner).

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🔹 Trickle Truth Disclosure

Definition: A Trickle Truth Disclosure is when the person reveals the truth slowly over time, often only when confronted with evidence or pressure. It is usually unstructured and reluctant.

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Scenario: A partner admits to infidelity.

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Why is a Trickle Truth Disclosure so damaging? 

A trickle truth disclosure—where someone reveals the truth slowly, in bits and pieces, often only when confronted—is particularly damaging because it erodes trust on multiple levels. Here’s why it hits so hard:

1. Repeated Betrayals

Each new “truth” feels like a fresh betrayal. The person who was hurt may begin to feel that the deception is ongoing, even if the discloser claims to be honest now.

2. Creates a Pattern of Dishonesty

When the truth is revealed in fragments, it suggests that the person is still hiding something. It becomes hard to tell whether the “full story” has ever truly been told.

3. Prolongs Pain and Uncertainty

Instead of processing one painful moment, the person on the receiving end is forced to relive the betrayal over and over again. The emotional rollercoaster becomes exhausting and destabilizing.

4. Undermines Rebuilding Efforts

In relationships where healing is possible, transparency is key. Trickle truth makes rebuilding trust almost impossible because it constantly shifts the foundation.

5. Feels Manipulative

It often seems like the person disclosing is only doing so to protect themselves—not out of remorse. This self-serving behavior intensifies feelings of disrespect and invalidation.

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