Healing Alone after Leaving
Support for Betrayed Partners of Porn and Sex Addicts
When You’ve Chosen to Walk Away
Leaving a relationship with a partner who struggles with porn or sex addiction is a deeply personal and often heartbreaking decision. Whether the separation was sudden or years in the making, the road forward can feel lonely, confusing, and overwhelming.
You may be grieving not only the loss of the relationship but also the betrayal, lies, and emotional turmoil that came with it. Even when you know leaving was the healthiest choice, the aftermath can feel like an emotional wilderness.
This space is for you—the woman (or man) who chose to leave, who still feels the weight of what was lost, and who wants to find peace again.
Common Struggles After Leaving
- Isolation – Friends and family may not understand the depth of betrayal trauma or why it still hurts after leaving.
- Guilt and Self-Doubt – You may wonder, “Did I give up too soon?” or “Was it somehow my fault?”
- Triggers and Flashbacks – Long after the relationship ends, certain sights, smells, or sounds can stir intense emotional responses.
- Loss of Identity – You may have spent so long trying to help or manage your partner’s behavior that you’ve forgotten who you are.
These are normal responses to a deeply abnormal situation.
What Healing Alone Can Look Like
While being in a supportive relationship can aid healing, it is absolutely possible to heal and thrive on your own. Healing alone doesn’t mean being isolated—it means becoming your own safe place first.
- Trauma-Informed Therapy
Find a counselor who understands betrayal trauma and addiction-related abuse. You deserve to be heard by someone who gets it. - Nervous System Recovery
Calming techniques like breathwork, EMDR, yoga, and grounding exercises help repair the damage of chronic hypervigilance. - Rediscovering Self-Worth
Reconnect with the parts of you that were ignored or silenced in the relationship. Journaling, art, or nature can be powerful tools. - Community Support
Even if you’re healing “alone,” community matters. Look for support groups specifically for partners of sex/porn addicts—especially those who have left.
Women who have left their relationships after Betrayal Trauma – – therapist-led group is led by invitation; if you are interested, please let me know.
The BadAss Sisters is a group for those women whose relationships have ended after betrayal.
If you are ready to focus on unleashing your power, moving into the next phase of your life, with like minded women looking for connection, support, friendship and, laughter (on the brighter days) let me know.
The goal of running these groups is to help you restore sanity, trust and connection to yourself, as well as your relationships with others.
We will be practicing mindfulness in the present and hopefulness for the future.
Please note;
If you are experiencing intense anger and resentment it is best to do individual work to move through the stages of grief with your therapist before joining this particular group.
Unfortunately it is not helpful to the healing process to stay in “group anger” which can be contagious and keep members stuck.