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Susan Zola

Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist (CSAT) AND Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS)

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Sexual addiction is a complex issue that affects individuals from all walks of life, including those in the LGBTQ+ community. Members of this community may face unique challenges that contribute to the development of a sexual addiction, such as minority stress, stigma, and discrimination. LGBTQ+ individuals may also turn to sexual behaviors as a form of coping mechanism or as a way to escape feelings of isolation, shame, or low self-esteem. It’s important to note that seeking help for a sexual addiction is a courageous step towards recovery, and a wide range of resources and support services are available to those in need. With the help of mental health professionals, individuals in the LGBTQ+ community can work towards healing and lead fulfilling, healthy lives.

LGBTQ+ individuals who struggle with sexual addiction may face a number of unique challenges, including:

  1. Minority stress: The experience of prejudice, discrimination, and social marginalization can contribute to the development of a sexual addiction.
  2. Stigma: There may be a stigma associated with being LGBTQ+ and seeking help for a sexual addiction, which can discourage individuals from seeking support.
  3. Isolation: Feeling isolated and disconnected from others can lead some LGBTQ+ individuals to turn to addictive sexual behaviors as a form of escape.
  4. Lack of resources: There may be limited resources and support services specifically tailored to the needs of LGBTQ+ individuals struggling with sexual addiction.
  5. Shame and low self-esteem: Negative experiences related to their sexual orientation and/or gender identity may lead to feelings of shame and low self-esteem, which can be further exacerbated by a sexual addiction.

It’s important to acknowledge the unique challenges faced by LGBTQ+ individuals with sexual addiction and to provide culturally-sensitive and inclusive support to help them recover and lead healthy lives.


Self-care is an important aspect of overall well-being and can be especially beneficial for LGBTQ+ individuals who may experience additional stress and challenges. Here are some self-care examples that may be beneficial for LGBTQ+ individuals:

  1. Connect with others: Seek out supportive relationships with friends, family, or members of the LGBTQ+ community. Joining a support group or participating in LGBTQ+ events can also provide a sense of connection and community.
  2. Exercise: Regular physical activity can improve mental health, boost self-esteem, and reduce stress.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Engaging in mindfulness practices such as meditation, yoga, or deep breathing can help reduce stress and promote inner peace.
  4. Creative expression: Engaging in creative activities such as drawing, painting, or writing can be a healthy way to process emotions and express oneself.
  5. Seek professional help: Talking to a mental health professional who is culturally competent and sensitive to the needs of LGBTQ+ individuals can be extremely beneficial in addressing and overcoming personal challenges.
  6. Engage in self-reflection: Take time to reflect on your experiences, thoughts, and feelings, and identify areas for personal growth.

Remember, self-care looks different for everyone and it’s important to find activities and practices that work for you and your individual needs.


There are various resources available for LGBTQ+ individuals struggling with sexual addiction, including:

  1. LGBTQ+-specific support groups, such as SAA (Sex Addicts Anonymous) and SLAA (Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous), which offer a safe and supportive environment for individuals to share their experiences and receive help and guidance.
  2. Therapists and counselors who specialize in sexual addiction and have experience working with LGBTQ+ clients.
  3. Online forums and communities, such as the National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity (NCSAC) or Sexaholics Anonymous, where individuals can connect with others who are going through similar experiences.
  4. Books and educational resources on sexual addiction, including “Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction” by Patrick Carnes and “Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame” by George Collins.

It’s important for individuals to find a resource that feels comfortable and safe for them and to reach out for help if they are struggling with sexual addiction.



If your LGBTQ+ partner is a sex addict, here are some steps you can take to support them:

  1. Educate yourself: Read about sexual addiction, its causes, and its effects on individuals and relationships.
  2. Communicate: Talk openly and honestly with your partner about your concerns and listen to their perspective. Be respectful and non-judgmental.
  3. Seek therapy: Encourage your partner to seek therapy or support groups for sex addiction and consider couples therapy to work on your relationship.
  4. Set boundaries: Establish clear and healthy boundaries for your relationship, such as limits on technology usage and maintaining transparency about online activities.
  5. Focus on self-care: Caring for yourself is important, especially if you have been affected by your partner’s addiction. Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist and prioritize your own mental and emotional well-being.
  6. Avoid enabling behavior: Don’t participate in or enable your partner’s addiction by covering it up, making excuses, or ignoring it.

Remember that recovery from sexual addiction is a journey, and it may take time for your partner and your relationship to heal. Be patient, supportive, and encouraging throughout the process

RESOURCES:

Books:

  • Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men by Rob Weiss 
  • “Lust, Men and Meth: A Gay Man’s Guide to Sex and Recovery” by David Fawcett PhD, LCSW 
  • Becoming Gay: The Journey to Self-Acceptance by Richard Isay
  • 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives by Joe Kort 
  • Queer Blues: The Lesbian and Gay Guide to Overcoming Depression by Kimeron N. Hardin 
  • The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs
  • Lesbian Love Addiction: Understanding the Urge to Merge and How to Heal When Things go Wrong by Lauren D. Costine 
  • Bridging the Sex Addiction Divide: Mindful Considerations for Vulnerable Clients by Dr. Michael J. Salas

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Hello, My name is Susan Zola, LCSW, CCPS, CSAT. I offer a range of therapeutic services tailored to meet your unique needs. Specializing in individual therapy, couples counseling, and trauma-informed care, I am dedicated to helping you achieve emotional well-being and personal growth in a supportive environment.

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